Kim Lockhart is a certified singles dating expert who does private consulting, workshops and events through Mix It Up LA Social Club.

Before meeting her husband, Kim struggled with many of the same issues that her clients face.

“I’d date a sweet guy without any chemistry, or I’d meet a man that I was totally thrilled about, but who wasn’t interested in a serious relationship. It drove me nuts.”

Always a student at heart, she decided to take matters into her own hands.

“I put myself on a dating sabbatical and studied every relationship book out there: Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, What Men Really Want, articles about the science of sexual attraction, etc. Trust me, if it was out there, I read it.”

Moving to LA is what inspired Kim to put her personal research to use.

“LA is a magnet for super smart, ambitious, creative people. But the lifestyle here is so hectic and the city is so spread out, people have an extremely hard time creating real connections. Those factors, plus all of the misconceptions about what men and women really want, creates a lot of frustration. I am committed to changing that!”

For the last several years, Kim has continued studying and coaching through workshops, research, parties and private sessions. In June 2009, she met fellow dating coach Luis Santiago and formed Mix It Up LA.

“As business partners we have two goals. First, learn from each other to become the best coaches possible.  Second, transfer that experience to our clients so that they have a balanced perspective. That gives them the self-confidence and awareness to get exactly the kind of relationship that they want.”



Kim Lockhart
Dating and Relationship Consultant
Co-Founder of Mix It Up LA Social Club

It’s an interesting story of how I got into date coaching.

Fortunately, in high school I was a decent basketball player.  When you are a good athlete it’s easy to make friends and have a social circle. After high school, and without having sports to fall back, it became clear that I was lacking social skills and did not know how to attract women. Instead of accepting this and hoping that I would meet girls who would just “like me for who I am," I decided to take control of my life and learn everything I could about women and dating. I read endless books on women and relationships. I started applying the various ways to approach and build attraction, but honestly, there were a lot of crash and burn scenarios.

That only made me want to practice even more. I never passed up the opportunity to talk to a woman, even if I wasn’t interested in dating her. Malls, parks, and grocery stores; they were all places for me to practice.

An important aspect I learned in my research was that women are communicators. In order to help me overcome what most people consider to be their biggest fear, I joined a public speaking organization. By working on my communication skills, it became easier to talk to women.

The more I dated, the more insight I got about the opposite sex. My friends, both male and female, began to notice. They were impressed with my busy dating life and eventually I became their “Dating Guru.” I went from a skinny, insecure kid to a confident young man that dated some amazing women.

I understand the challenges men face when it comes to meeting women. I needed help in more than one area when I was going through the process. This experience taught me many valuable lessons that I share with my clients.

I take the best out of all the information out there and customize it for you. I have studied pick up artists, other dating gurus, and even psychology books because I believe they all make contributions when it comes to trying to understand this thing called love.

I provide invaluable dating advice to both men and women. This is especially helpful to women.  I am very hard on men when it comes to them stepping up and taking control of their dating lives. When I work with women, they get this same straightforward and honest approach. They get a better understanding of men and realize that we are not as bad as they may think. I have helped many women deal with break ups, understand their boyfriends better, and notice things about themselves that might damage relationships.

The only way that we will ever understand each other is to truly be open to understanding each other.

Luis Santiago
Mix It Up LA-Co Founder
Dating Coach